Two Men Down and I’m so Over Dating Right Now
Oi Yo…the world of dating is crazy, nuts, chaotic and at times just downright exhausting both mentally and physically.
I’ve made a decision over the events of the last few days to make my profile on the dating site I was using inactive. It’s still there just not viewable to other members.
Update on “The Prospects”:
In my post it’s raining men I shared there were three new prospects. Just a day later in one man down two to go…well there were now only two prospects.
So I did email prospect #3 – the dude with no nickname to cancel our date for tonight. I did that yesterday.
Yesterday I was looking forward to meeting prospect #2 – the older man. But that all changed pretty quickly around 12:30 yesterday afternoon. And it was a bit of a bummer because I had connected really well with him! Once we talked on the phone we couldn’t shut up! Conversation was easy, fun, intriguing and leaving me with excitement to meet him.
The events of 12:30 yesterday afternoon that unfolded around Older Man, prospect #2:
My best friend B and our friend J work together & often go out to lunch together. Yesterday was no different. J has a profile on the same dating site I do so we often exchange stories with the men prospects to each other including B (who by the way thinks J and I are too picky when it comes to looks LOL).
Imagine my surprise, as I’m talking and getting things set up with B and J for them to go with me Friday night to the bar to meet Older Man when J is like OMG is he from ________ and I was like yes. And my mouth hung open as she said OMG is his name _______. I’m pretty sure I couldn’t even mutter a yes at that point!
I was mad. Silly I know considering uhm hello that’s what people do when they are on a dating site – talk to other people – but I just couldn’t wrap my brain around the fact that of all the women on the site he was emailing my friend J. I mean seriously what are the chances???? Oh and he’s still married! Separated but married none the less.
As we are talking J is sending him text messages and then all of a sudden I get this text message from him:
Ok. I’m having a very odd day. I’ve been emailing someone in ______ around the same time as you now I hear you guys are friends??!!!
I responded back yep and I’m just a little creeped out by this whole thing. His response back:
Interesting to say the least. I think I should bow out at this point. Very awkward. I would have never of dreamed!!!!
I responded back but don’t even remember what I said. I forwarded the text to J and she responded back that he sent her the same text. LOL But that was that. Another one bites the dust! I’m thinking that should be my theme song for my life in the realm of dating?!?
In Conclusion:
Dating disasters…actually I can’t even call them dating disasters because that would mean I actually had a date with them! But anyways…that means two men have now bit the dust leaving prospect #1 – Lansing man. But I don’t even have enough energy to give him a chance. Oh and I still haven’t heard anything more from him anyways so I guess that makes it easier to not have the energy to give him a chance.
I just don’t have any desire to keep up this dating charade or whatever you want to call it. Sure I have lots of ‘extra’ time on my hands with Caleb still being at his dad’s house but I honestly am wore out emotionally from this dating crap. Sigh.
1Chantelle
wrote on 9 July 2009 at 12:24
I hear ya, sister. I’m enjoying time with my friends, my family, and my kid.
2Chrissy
wrote on 9 July 2009 at 13:15
Yikes! I think your decision to go inactive right now is great, no need to wear your self out completely and it sounds like you are pretty much spent! Take this time to pamper yourself, surround yourself with friends that love you and enjoy the summer!! HUGS
Chrissy’s last blog post..And I thought…
3Laura
wrote on 9 July 2009 at 15:38
Ah sorry man! I found online dating to be exhausting!
Laura’s last blog post..Little rant
4Tishia Lee
wrote on 10 July 2009 at 1:28
Chantelle – Yep I’m getting involved in some volunteering opportunities in my community so that will keep me busy.
Chrissy – I’m totally spent. I never realized how tiring (both emotionally and physically!) dating could be.
Laura – I’m finding that same exact thing!
5Casual Friday Every Day
wrote on 10 July 2009 at 18:39
I’m sorry chicka bebe. I hope you meet the man God has for you when the time is right. Sometimes I’m SOOOO glad I’m not single. Even when he is driving me up the wall I try and remember how blessed I am.
Nell
Casual Friday Every Day’s last blog post..The Mist
6Tishia Lee
wrote on 11 July 2009 at 16:36
Nell – Thank you for comment. Being single and being in the ‘pool’ of dating all these ‘fish’ is a pain in the rump! Not fun at all.
7Loretta
wrote on 15 July 2009 at 23:22
Dating is just… ugh, hard work. Sounds like you’re ready for a break! Work, parenting, who needs more to do, right? If a nice guy comes along you’ll know.
Don’t give up completely on the dating site though, my hubby’s friend Steve met his girlfriend through a dating site, and they just got engaged about a month ago!
And from a guy’s point of view Steve looked at dating pretty much the same as we’ve all said… hard work, exhausting, and a pain in the rump! He had some pretty awful dates early on in using the dating site too, if I remember right he even switched from one dating site to a different one because he was having such a bad experience on the first.
Hang in there!
Loretta’s last blog post..The Next Food Network Star: The Final Four
8Admin
wrote on 16 July 2009 at 4:13
Loretta – Thanks for your comment. Dating can be so discouraging! I think that’s one of my biggest issues right now. I invest all this time into it but only get discouraged as I find more and more guys that are just…well I don’t know not right for me that’s for sure! I love hearing stories of people that have met online and are now either engaged or married – it gives me a little flicker of hope. LOL
9Lisa
wrote on 12 September 2009 at 1:02
Tishia and all, your stories remind me of my own time on the Dating Rollercoaster. It’s a bumpy ride, but worth it. I started looking for love a few weeks after my 40th birthday — and 18 months and 19 men later, I met Mr. Right. I had to give myself lots of pep talks along the way, and I shared every gory detail with a few good friends, who helped keep me (mostly) sane. I remember several times driving home from a bad date and looking myself in the rear view mirror and saying, “Onward and upward!” Your efforts will be rewarded — hang in there.
10Admin
wrote on 13 September 2009 at 23:32
Lisa-Thank you for stopping by and commenting. It’s definitely a bumpy ride that’s for sure. I am glad to hear that you met your Mr. Right.