This is Why Spending Time with His Dad is Hard on Me
I’m so glad and thankful that my son’s dad is a part of my son’s life because Caleb just adores him. Caleb looks up to him so much. But there’s a part of me that gets so frustrated sometimes. Like right now. Caleb only spent 3 nights with his dad and his dad’s girlfriend and he came home a mouthy monster!
Oh on a side note – he got 3 nights with them because he didn’t have school today so he got to spend Sunday night there and I met his dad 1/2 way today to get him back.
Anyways back to my issue at hand. Caleb and being a mouthy monster.
I love him dearly. But somedays that boy’s mouth just doesn’t know when to stop. Like right now. He comes back from his dad’s and suddenly everything I tell him to do is a sarcastic, snotty, mouthy I don’t have to do that at my dad’s, my dad doesn’t make me do that, my dad says, my dad my dad my dad…..ugh!
You would think that the little time Caleb spends with his dad (every other weekend and Holidays) wouldn’t effect him so much but Holy Hannah does it ever. And of course I have tried talking to his dad in the past about these issues and his dad always tells me “I don’t have any problems with him”. UGH.
Part of me is kind of laughing on the inside (isn’t that horrible?) because this summer Caleb will be spending 6 weeks…6 whole weeks at his dads house. After 6 weeks with our son if that man tries to tell me he didn’t have any problems with him I’m gonna know for sure he’s full of crap 
There’s no way that in a 6 week time frame Caleb isn’t going to get mouthy, talk back or not listen to his dad. Hehehehe I can’t wait for his dad and him to spend 6 whole weeks together. 24 hours a day 7 days a week….hmmm should be interesting! LOL.
1Aurelia
wrote on 19 January 2009 at 22:52
WOW I have a friend that has the exact same issue. She says that for every day her daughter is with the dad she needs to DETOX the child and that takes 2 days
. I hope Caleb is back to his sweet self soon hon.
2Mary Lutz
wrote on 19 January 2009 at 23:45
Hey Tishia, I totally understand! You know I do, I’ve been there with my Kaleb! I hate how my ex would say stuff like that too! I feel for you sister!!! Just keep praying for Caleb and keep him in church!
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3Mary
wrote on 11 February 2009 at 12:20
Hey Girl, I went through the exact same thing with Ryan when he was visiting his dad. I finally figured out, for Ryan, it was lack of structure. So, what I would do then is prepare for his arrival and make sure everything was organized. When he got home, I’d put him in the tub to relax and fix him a nutritious meal, then read to him. Yes, you heard me, read to him! Another thing I would try is “pseudo” deep breathing. I’d sit on the floor with him and ask him to follow my breathing. He’d get impatient, but after a while it seemed to help. Several therapists recommended this technique as well. When we were done, I would take a walk with him, play a game with him, whatever. The hardest thing would be to stick to the routine, but I’m telling you, it did help!
Wanna come see you next weekend! Are you going to be around??
xoxoxo
4Valerie
wrote on 24 March 2009 at 15:48
Don’t worry about it. His behavior just tells me he feels safe with you and doesn’t have to worry about you not wanting him around if he misbehaves. My son was an angel when he would visit his father. Never an angel at home. He is an adult with 6 children of his own now and says. Mom, I didn’t have to worry about impressing you. I knew you would love me no matter what I did. I was never sure of that with my father. So take heart and know that Caleb feels safe and secure with you.
5Tishia Lee
wrote on 24 March 2009 at 23:03
Valerie thank you for your comment. I like knowing what you adult son has told you about why he behaved the way he did…there might just truly be a reason behind my son’s acting out the way he does
Thanks for sharing!
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