Tell Me Thursday
This is the picture to yesterdays Wordless Wednesday – Feeling Green post. My kiddo is 11 and he’s all about expressing himself. He’s certainly comfortable in his own body! Which hey that’s a great thing.
For a couple years now he has been wanting to do something funky with his hair. I’ve always been the ‘mean’ mom and been adamant about my “No” and he’ll back off for awhile but then starts bugging again.
The bugging started a couple weeks ago and I stuck to my “No” answer. Then while hanging out at the awesome Lake House this past weekend I decided I wanted highlights in my hair so we headed to Wal-Mart and Sally’s Beauty Supply to get some stuff.
At Sally’s my kiddo wanted to get the can of green hair dye. Once again my answer was no but I was gently reminded that it’s just hair and it’s NOT permanent and what harm would there be in letting him do it?
Yeah ok so I stopped and thought about it and honestly there wasn’t any harm in it at all other than I realized I was more concerned about what people would think of ME for letting my son do that to his hair. After all the next day was Sunday and we were going to CHURCH! LOL
So as you can see I realized it didn’t matter what people thought of me for letting him do it because we did it. It washes right out so it’s a win/win situation – he’s happy & I’m happy.
1Gabriel
wrote on 24 September 2009 at 15:20
I would have certainly gone through the same thoughts you went through if faced with this situation, so I can totally relate. Even more, I don’t know if I would have said ‘yes’ afterwards, so kudos to you!
My post is here: http://lfwaterloo.blogspot.com/2009/09/tell-me-thursdays-me-too.html
Have a great day!
2Melitsa of Play Activities
wrote on 24 September 2009 at 16:02
Good for you. I know I should do this but I don’t konw if even at 11 I would. He does look cool though.
3Christine Holroyd
wrote on 24 September 2009 at 18:32
Phew! Good you can wash it out coz what if he didn’t like it? Great process for you to go through and great that you realised the ‘no’ was about you, not him
If that makes sense?
4Author (Tishia)
wrote on 25 September 2009 at 8:19
Gabriel – Thanks for stopping by to check out my TMT. Heading over to check yours out in a second.
Melitsa – I hate the green. LOL He said he thinks he would have liked blue better so next time it will be blue!
Christine – Yes it made total sense. It was all about me & my concerns with what others would think instead of really being about him & what he wanted to do (not that he always has a say in what he gets to do lol).
5Chrissy
wrote on 7 October 2009 at 2:29
This post makes me smile! I think it’s great. I am not much of the “mean mom” type BUT my oldest has guidelines. When we made the decision to let her start wearing makeup I did worry about what other parents would think too st first but quickly came to the conclusion that I wasn’t going to care what they thought. That day was a good day!
6Author (Tishia)
wrote on 7 October 2009 at 7:37
ChrissyIt’s funny that the whole problem I had was the fact that I was worried about what people would think of me. Who cares? I’m 34 years old I’ve wasted enough of my life doing and saying and being a certain way for fear of what others thought. So what that my kid wanted green hair? Right? It wasn’t a permanent dye or anything so no biggie. lol
7Julie
wrote on 8 October 2009 at 10:58
You are brave. I was never so brave but my son once had his step mom “hi light” his hair while there on the weekend (the NERVE of that woman). He came home with yellow spots in his hair. yes, spots, she had no idea what she was doing and he looked like a leopard. Since I had told him NO hi lights and he went and had it done anyways… I made him wear it like that till they grew out on their own and was cut off. He hasn’t done it since. LOL
8Author (Tishia)
wrote on 8 October 2009 at 14:21
Julie – I would have been upset about the situation you mentioned too. Had my son went to his dads and asked for highlights after being told NO from me and they did it, I would have been fit to be tied. I can’t help but giggle at the whole leopard thing – I totally would have made my son wear it like that too. Kids!