No Dating for Me
I shared in a recent post about the whole online dating thing and how I recently happened to check my email that I used for an online dating site quite awhile I ago and how I was emailing with a couple guys. They both wanted to meet and I was NOT ready for that. Heck I wasn’t even ready or willing to give them my phone number.
So what does this have to do with this post?
I’m just not ready to be dating right now.
I remember reading a recent post over at Canadian Bald Guy’s blog where he mentioned how he had been thinking a lot about someone lately and how circumstances were keeping them apart but he had fond memories of the times they had together. He then went on to mention how that probably has something to do with why he isn’t out there actively dating right now because until he finds a connection with someone like he had with her he’ll enjoy being single.
Anyways I was reading that post shaking my head in agreement as tears rolled down my face. I know exactly how he feels. I’ve been thinking a lot about someone (that’s no secret to a few people lol) and until I stop caring so deeply for him I’m honestly not ready to date (and there’s other reasons like I need to work on myself).
And then tonight…err I mean this morning just totally reiterated what I was feeling as I read Canadian Bald Guy’s post – I’m not ready to date. As I chatted with my someone it reminded me why I’m not ready to date.
And that’s all I’m sayin.
1Laura
wrote on 15 May 2009 at 11:41
Then its best not too! Often we force it and then wonder why we keep going from one bad r/ship to the next!
Take time to heal and move forward
And then be ready!
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2Canadian Bald Guy
wrote on 15 May 2009 at 13:27
There’s no need to “force” happiness if you’re not ready.
I went through a period after my separation where I was wanting to date ANYBODY in an effort to feel loved or wanted. That just didn’t solve the problem at all and, in the end, just made things worse.
And now…after this relationship…I just don’t feel I need anything extra in my life. Would I enjoy having love? Having intimacy? Having shared moments? Having sex?
Sure…of course I would. But for all the times I’m lonely, I know that I’m not making things worse by TRYING to find somebody to fill those voids in my life. I’ve got my kids, I’ve got my blogging (which can be extremely therapeutic, as you can probably tell), I’ve got my job, and I’ve got a roof over my head and food on my table.
When it happens…it’ll happen and I’ll be ready for it. But I’m a believer in fate: what will be will be.
Enjoy the positives in your life as they are right now. You’ll know when you’re truly ready to move on.
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3Donna
wrote on 16 May 2009 at 12:11
When you’re ready, you’ll know it. I just read the last few lines of Canadian Bald Guy’s comment, and he said everything I was going to say. So – Ditto what Canadian Bald Guy said.
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4admin
wrote on 16 May 2009 at 21:15
Laura You are so right about the whole forcing it. I’ve definitely been forcing it & it’s just not working.
Canadian Bald Guy You are full of words of wisdom. I love the whole what’s meant to be will be…so so true!!! And as for knowing when I’m truly ready to move on…I sure hope so. I thought I would be ready by now, it’s been quite awhile but I’m so not!
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