Mystery Solved:

Bet you didn’t know I was trying to solve one did ya?

I kind of forgot I was trying to solve it to because after a few weeks I figured it wasn’t worth it anymore.

Ok so what am I talking about?

Well it has to do with a man. Yeah that should cue you in right away that there’s trouble (I’m kidding! Men aren’t all that bad!)

Anyways last month I made mention of my ‘friend’ that I had started hanging out quite a bit with. He was the one that was supposed to be my ‘date’ for my mom & step dad’s wedding vow renewal. He was the one that I was starting to like spending time with and talking/texting every day was something I looked forward to.

That doesn’t sound so bad does it?

Well no it wasn’t until he mysteriously fell off the face of the earth! I mean literally vanished into thin air overnight! 

Still clueless who/what I’m talking about? Read all about it here.

So it’s been a month since I’ve heard from him and I’ve played it over and over in my head how I was going to give him a piece of my mind and tell him off for being so immature and lacking in the respect department for not picking up the phone and letting me know what was going on. And then I just kind of figured ah well it’s not worth it.

But guess what?

I got my chance tonight! Just as mysteriously as he disappeared he reappeared! As soon as I saw his name come up on my messenger list my claws came out! I didn’t waste any time..it took about 30 seconds for me to ‘lay’ into him.

I wasn’t expecting the response I got back and just because I’m a nice person I won’t share the details of what has happened in his life over the last month but he definitely had his life turned upside down that’s for sure. But I still made it a point to let him know that regardless of all that he had been going through he should have had enough RESPECT for me to pick up the phone and call me to tell me why he ‘vanished’ into thin air overnight. Heck I would have settled for a text message even! 

So anyways I don’t know how I feel about this. I know it was nice talking to him again after I got done chewing him out and he says he has lots to do to make it up to me. He doesn’t have anything to make up to me, he doesn’t owe me anything. And even if I felt he did seriously could someone make up just vanishing into thin air for a month? Even knowing the events that have happened that’s still NO EXCUSE for not taking 2 minutes to tell me what was going on.

And after all that mystery solving I finally find closure to another case I had been working on:

Today must have just been my day for ‘dealing’ with things because something else I needed to deal with came up today too!  

I haven’t exactly had the closure I needed on my past relationship with a certain someone because there were a couple things, one thing specifically, bothering me. I emailed him about it several days ago and of all the days for him to respond it was today (kind of crazy that he responded to my email today and then I also had to deal with some reappearing in my life after vanishing for a month!). 

His words were a bit harsher than I was expecting but sometimes brutal honesty is harsh. But the craziest thing happened to me as I read and re-read (I won’t tell you that I read his email 6 different times) that email.

I didn’t get upset. I didn’t cry. I didn’t get angry. I didn’t get depressed. I didn’t get mad at him. Instead I actually smiled and found myself beig thankful for the relationship we had, the things he taught me, the lessons I learned during our relationship, that I’m stronger than I think I am as I endured the highs and lows of his deployment. But most of all I thanked God that I learned over the course of this relationship that I could love again. And I’m so thankful that I was introduced to such an amazing man.

For once since our relationship ended I didn’t hurt. I didn’t feel sadness. I felt joy that I had what I had with him because I truly did learn so many things in our relationship even as ‘abnormal’ (for those of you that weren’t reading my blog during this relationship I say ‘abnormal’ because he was in Iraq and we had never met face to face. We were introduced through a mutual friend) as it was. I realized that that one silly little question, that had been bothering me for months but I kept pushing it aside as if it didn’t matter, and his answer were exactly what I needed to feel the closure that’s been lacking. It was the piece of the puzzle that had been missing and preventing me from truly letting him go.

All I can say is what an interesting day! I think I’ll give up on my mystery solving skills especially when it comes to anything that has to do with men Men are such…an interesting breed. Cause ya know all us women are just normal! LOL